Eco Funerals

Eco Funerals

More and more people have the words Eco Funerals and Eco Burials on their lips.  We have heard of eco cemeteries in England. We have heard of the Natural Death Centre in Byron Bay who champion eco funerals.  And we ask are green funeral solutions available on the Sunshine Coast?  The short answer is yes green funerals are available, eco options are around and natural burials will soon be an option.

Engaging your eco values in a funeral for your loved ones is a continuation of life values.

It begins with a holistic approach to the end of life, and continues into the way we say farewell.  Many options are available to families, to make rituals for the end of life more deeply personal and down to earth, and …. green.

Imagine wrapping your dear one in an eco shroud, or an eco coffin.  Imagine using a family car or horse and cart for transport.  Imagine farewelling your loved one in your own garden, on a beach, in the forest.

Imagine a burial ground near forest, that is allowed to return to nature once the graves are buried.  Imagine visiting the site of your dear one, in a leafy forest, and sitting on real ground amongst bird song and breeze.  A place full of natural life and vigour.

What is possible?

When someone dies, it’s natural to be unsure whether you feel shocked, sad, angry, depressed, relieved, guilty, fearful, or all of these at once.  Coping with these feelings while preparing a farewell can be challenging, especially when you think there is a way it all “has to be done”.  You can do things differently. Do things your family way and truly reflect the life you are commemorating.  Sometimes doing something different and taking charge can help.  Sometimes being able to act according to your or their values helps.
Conventional funeral practices work well for many people but may not provide the scope to be as deeply and personally involved as you may need to be. Fortunately, there are other options available with end of life care.  Most people simply aren’t aware that ceremonies, budgets, caring for the dead or even ways of transportation and burial are not set in stone.

Then when it comes to planning a ritual of farewell, you can be involved at every step of the way. AND you can engage your values.

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A Green Funeral?

Did you know that:

  • A dying wish can be a chance to leave the legacy of a cleaner environment.
  • Green funerals actually do exist.
  • There are a range of eco options for caskets and coffins
  • In Australia we all have the right to be buried in a shroud, a cardboard coffin, a simple wood box or a kaftan if that’s what we want.
  • You can take charge of many of the aspects of a funeral, and not have to pay a business to do everything for you.
  • How do I find out more about Eco Funeral options?

Contact Kari to find out more

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8 things to say when exchanging wedding rings

8 things to say when exchanging wedding rings

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8 things to say when exchanging wedding rings

[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]The question is does one simply place the wedding ring on your dear one’s finger… or do you say something poignant as well?

In this story we explore the background of the wedding ring, but more importantly, what to say at that special moment when you are exchanging rings.  There’s a list of 8 things to say… and plenty more to ponder as well.

AND my free gift to you .. at the end of the story; a little tip for you to take to your wedding.

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Why a wedding ring?

For thousands of years lovers have exchanged a wedding ring as tokens of their vows……
Of course there is no legal imperative to use rings in your ceremony, but it is a custom that most couples still hold dear for their wedding day. A ring is a gift you wear forever as a reminder of your wedding day, and the promises you gave to each other.  It is indeed precious, of course, because it is made from valuable materials; shiny metals and sparkly stones.  Yet the wedding ring is made absolutely treasured because of its symbolism.

The ring connects to the heart

Shakespeare wrote, “Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts.” Some believe that the hands are a connection to the heart, and a hand blessing symbolically brings two hearts together.

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Your wedding ring

So you’ve been shopping for a wedding ring, trying things on, thinking about what exactly you would like to wear into the future.  All the time anticipating the ceremony, when the ring will be placed on your hand for the first time.

This is something you may not have thought much about. This is where your celebrant comes into the picture to help you with things to say when exchanging your rings.

But before we explore what to say, let’s take a step back and consider the history of the wedding ring.

Where did the wedding ring come from?

According to some historians, the first recorded rings linked with a marriage ceremony date back to the days when early man tied plaited circlets around the Bride’s wrists and ankles to keep her spirit from running away. Approximately 3,000 BC, Egyptians originated the phrase “without beginning, without end” in describing the significance of the wedding ring. These rings were made of woven hemp which constantly wore out and needed replacement.

A gold ring

It was the Romans who originally used iron, gold is now used as a symbol of all that is pure. Diamonds were first used by Italians, who believed that it was created from the flames of love. According to some European cultures, the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. In other cultures, an engagement ring is worn on the left hand, and the wedding ring is worn on the right hand.

his and hers wedding rings set with blue saphires

Which finger?

We all expect wedding rings to go on the left hand ring finger.  It is said that this finger has a vein that goes straight to the heart. Perhaps there is also a Chinese meridian of love making the same connection. However in my celebrant career, I have seen rings on the right hand as per the custom in many European countries.  I have also seen wedding nose rings, wedding ear rings, wedding wrist watches, tattooed wedding rings and more.  And only once have I seen them dropped!!  But that’s another story.

What do I say when I put the ring on his finger?

You need not say anything at all. Sometimes it is what you do that is as important as what you say.  You can simply slide the ring onto his finger… then tug and twist and push until it goes over the knuckle!!! Because generally wedding rings don’t slide on easily!!  I have a tip for that too… but for now read on…

You may like to say a little something. It does not need to be a long message. You have just exchanged vows; the moment which would usually encapsulate your promise. So for the rings exchange need not be wordy.  You are just searching for a few words  to say whilst slipping the ring on your love’s finger

So … drumroll …… here are

8 things you can say when exchanging your wedding rings

  1. With this ring I thee wed
    This is the longtime classic phrase.  The grammar seems old school and a bit foreign. Perhaps it seems a little formal.  But it is very traditional.  And depending on how you say it, can be quite poignant or funny even.
  2. I give you this wedding ing to wear to seal the promises I make to you today
    I guess this outlines the fact that the ring seals a promise of marriage.
  3. I give you this ring as a symbol of my love for you. Let it be a reminder that I am always by your side and that I will always be a faithful partner to you.
    This phrase is kind of an extension to your wedding vows.  It encompasses some of the classic sentiments of marriage, that you want to be faithful.. for always.
  4. I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you
  5. With this ring, I marry you. With my loving heart. With my willing body. And with my eternal soul.
  6. I give you this ring, as I give to you all that I am, and accept from you, all that you are.
  7. This ring is a circle with no end, just like my love for you. Wear this ring and recall my promise to you today.
  8. As you cherish this ring, so I cherish you

But that’s not all…. there are other options above and beyond 8 things to say when exchanging wedding rings…. You can…..

Or …say it with a poem

A simple and poignant poem is

With this ring, I thee wed
With my body, I thee worship
With my heart, I thee cherish
Would all that I am, I give unto you
Would all that I have, I share with you
From this day until forever done.

Another delightful solution is to choose someone to read the poem, “These are the Hands…” No one seems to know the original author, and it has appeared in several versions. It is also easy to personalise to your own situation. For example, substitute, young for mature, or care for cherish, or the present tense for the past tense for a longer relationship/engagement or for a renewal of vows….. etc. Try this while you exchange rings:

These are the hands, author unknown

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love,

that hold yours on your wedding day.

These are the hands that will work along side yours as you build your future together.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and care for you throughout the years.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief torments your mind and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you struggle, and support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, and help keep your family together as one.

These are the hands that will, countless times, wipe the tears from yours eyes, tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch—- a touch from these hands.

What other options are there for a wedding ring?

How about a handfasting ritual or a ring warming. Ask me, I’ll tell you how.

unusual wedding ring with uneven row of set diamonds in gold and silver band

And now that you have read to the end, my tip for those reluctant rings on swollen fingers.

On a wedding day we are so excited our fingers often swell up or go cold or dry, or hot… or anything but normal!!

So if you smear a little paw paw cream or vaseline on the inside of the rings before you place them in the ring box, then you will be surprised how easily they slide onto your fingers during your wedding ceremony.

There you go, my celebrant’s tip for exchanging wedding rings.

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Valentine Love is in the air

Valentine Love is in the air

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Valentine Love

Valentine Love is the focus of Valentine’s Day, and it is just around the corner. February 14th has become special for lovers.  Yet the risk is that red roses and hallmark cards are stealing the show.  When, in fact a day for love, could be just that… A Valentine Day for love, love and more love.  As John Lennon said, “Love is all you need.”  What’s more it is all we seek, all we want, all we strive for, and that is to love and to be loved.

Love is in the air

Love is really what we have come to appreciate most of all since Covid 19 engulfed our awareness and changed our plans.  But it does give us a pause in the traffic to refocus on love.  Love for self, for kids, for family, for animals, for trees, for land and culture, for the earth.

Valentine’s Day

A Day for Valentines gives us the extra special opportunity to feel and to give love for one’s significant other. That is, the love we feel deep inside every day, not just on one day, Valentine’s Day.  This day gives us pause to acknowledge something we carry inside on all days.  I am reminded of a quote from one of Rumi’s poems,[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]

The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere,
they’re in each other all along.” 

Rumi (13th Century Persian Poet)

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A Valentine Marriage Proposal

Of course many couple’s turn to each other on this day and dare to say, will you marry me?  And that is a romantic gesture like no other, the question which precede’s a life promise.  And for that I am reminded of another more modern English author’s words, those of Neil Gaiman, who said, as part of a speech;

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The world out there is complicated,
and there are beasts in the night, and delight and pain,
and the only thing that makes it okay, sometimes,
is to reach out a hand in the darkness and find another hand to squeeze,
and not to be alone.
It’s not the kisses, or never just the kisses: it’s what they mean.
Somebody’s got your back.
Somebody knows your worst self and somehow doesn’t want to rescue you
or send for the army to rescue them.
It’s not two broken halves becoming one.
It’s the light from a distant lighthouse bringing you both safely home
because home is wherever you are both together.
Because there are things you cannot know before you experience them.
Because no study can prepare you for the joys or the trials.
Because nobody else’s love, nobody else’s marriage, is like yours,
and it’s a road you can only learn by walking it,
a dance you cannot be taught,
a song that did not exist before you began, together, to sing.
And because in the darkness you will reach out a hand,
not knowing for certain if someone else is even there.
Your hands will meet, 
and then neither of you will ever need to be alone again.
That’s all I know about love.
Neil Gaiman

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day folks. May your day and your days be filled with love.
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Flaxton Gardens wedding

Flaxton Gardens wedding

A Flaxton Gardens Wedding

This is the story of a fun wedding at Flaxton Gardens, dedicated wedding and events venue on the Sunshine Coast Hinterland.

Gosh I loved the spirit of this couple.  We laughed.  They danced. We high fived. Bec and Mitch had the most fun they could at their wedding.  So, congratulations to Bec and Mitch on their stunning Flaxton Gardens Wedding.  It was a picture perfect day with celebrant – Kari.

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

How did their wedding begin?

Of course it began a long time ago.  These two were set up by a friend who, after spending weeks trying to convince Bec to meet him, decided the only way it was going to happen was by tricking her into it. Mitch on the other hand took no convincing, as he knew she was blond and that was all he needed to know!

After spending just one evening together, where they both brought out their competitive sides; playing pool and discussing the merits of the “bunny suicides”, they were both smitten.

I loved working with these two.  They simply have fun together… all of the time. Best friends and companions in many, many ways.  Mitch says, “Iggy has been my whole world for over 7 years.”  Bec adores that they have the same sense of humour, and make each other laugh so much.

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

A large wedding in the garden

Flaxton Gardens is a stunning venue for a large gathering in beautiful gardens with the most amazing view of the Sunshine Coastline.  And now that restrictions have lifted, large weddings are on again. Hoorah!

Fun ceremony

When planning their ceremony we decided that it was about fun. A bit of jiving down the aisle, a few high Fives, lots of laughs and not too serious.  But loads of love and friendship.  And who says only the bride gets to walk down the aisle?

Modern day couples are all about equality in their relationships, so why not reflect that in a marriage ceremony too.  We discussed how we could even things up and make the ceremony all about two people, and fun of course.  Mitch chose a theme song for the boys, so Mitch and his three groomsmen, Gab, Liam and Dylan had their moment in the limelight before the girls arrived.  We admired the view while Bec arrived in the car, and readied herself for the big arrival.

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

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Arrival of the Bride

Before we glimpsed Bec coming out from the magnificent winery building doors, the girls had their moments before Kasia and Tiana walked down the aisle.  Then she arrived on the arms of Dad.  It was hard to stop the tears of joy.

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

Flaxton gardens wedding celebrant

Wedding Ceremony

And so the ceremony began…. all tears and smiles mixed in together.  So natural, so authentic, so much fun.

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And then they were wed

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Photo Credit @lukemiddlemissphotography

 

 

 

Small weddings or elopement

Small weddings or elopement

Small weddings are all the rage

Since Covid 19 changed our world, and many large weddings were postponed, everyone is considering the benefits of small weddings.

What is an elopement?

An elopement is the classic small wedding.  Traditionally an elopement was a wedding for two; a couple ran away from home to the registry office and wed before anyone knew.  Lovers who were forbidden by family to marry, escaped and married in secret. With changing culture and autonomy for a couple to decide for themselves, these days an elopement is even more romantic.   Elopements are more considered and often include a few others. Whilst traditionally an elopement was just two people, a celebrant and some witnesses…. it can be so much more.

Small weddings

Small weddings are so easy to organise.  An elopement wedding is a wedding made for two people, the two who matter most. I have teamed up with amazing photographer Marion Jonkers to create an elopement or small wedding package.  Very affordable beginning at $1500, this package may be all you need to wed in intimate style. Check out the smiles on Shannon and Tim on their wedding day… a small wedding for an intimate family group. Thanks to Marion Jonkers for the photographs. And to The Spotted Chook for the venue.

Small Wedding Package

Would you like a small wedding or elopement package for your nuptials? Consider a simple package of celebrant, photographer (who double’s as a witness) and some beautiful flowers. Simple and easy. Just turn up.

Photographer

Marion Jonkers is an amazing photographer, who manages to capture all those candid and touching moments.

Flowers

Flowers by Noo, are an extraordinary addition to your package.  She creates large and fragrant bouquets in your chosen colour palette with a matching buttonhole for the groom.
Woodford Festival celebrant

Woodford Festival celebrant

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Woodford Festival wedding celebrant

Considering getting married at the Woodford Folk Festival? Many couples do.  They all need a wedding celebrant.

Imagine having an extraordinary, and I mean….Extra Ordinary, array of options for wedding ceremony location, restaurant reception options AND even entertainment options for your celebration afterwards.

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A Marriage Celebrant at the Woodford Folk Festival

get married at Woodford copyEvery wedding needs a marriage celebrant. Kari has years of experience, both in weddings AND at the festival.  Having conducted numerous weddings at Woodfordia, both at festival time and otherwise, she knows the Woodfordia site like a second home.
Whats more …… Kari will be at the festival.  No need to pay for entry or travel or even accommodation.
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Woodfordia – A place to marry

There are many pathways to your wedding. Spiritual pathways, emotional journeys, long roads, short stays…..

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A heart gateway to the sacred labyrinth at WoodfordiaThe Sacred Labyrinth

The Sacred Labyrinth is a magical space where anyone can walk a path to the heart and connect more deeply with themselves.  It can also be a place for your own wedding.

The Labyrinth is especially designed for couples to celebrate their connection through a marriage ceremony, a hand fasting or a special ritual of honouring.  There are also other ceremonies that take place in the Labyrinth. In any of these rituals the woman enters on the left and the man on the right. The couple meets at the top after making their solo journey and setting whatever intention is appropriate. They can then walk together into the centre for the ceremony.  Ceremony engages some moments in deep connection or exchange.  At the completion of the rituals they leave through the archways together and out into the world to celebrate with friends and family.


Woodfordia sacred Labyrinth for weddings

Woodford Festival Installations

Installations of art and lighting abound in the festival streets, creating wonderlands of locations to have your festival wedding.

Woodfordia candlelit creek

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woodfordia woven caveMusic and fun

The choice of music is endless. Simply approach your favourite band for the perfect music at your wedding.

Or here’s some ideas for your festival wedding…..

Find a ritual dancer.

Have your hands decorated with henna.

Order a wreath of flowers for your hair.

Find an original steam punk costume or festive hat.

Go Woodfordian.

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