~ with Sunshine Coast marriage celebrant, Kari ~
Congratulations Hayley and Wade with their darling children, Charlotte and Kobi, married in the delightful Tiffany’s Chapel.
(Check out the photo which I call “Wrapping the bride!”)
We seek ceremony when there is something profound happening. We do things in ceremony that are symbols of a deeper meaning in our lives. Some things are not easy to express every day, as we live it. Some things are best expressed by ritual. A wedding does this. It creates an opportunity to gather the important people, and to enunciate deep feelings in the form of promises or gifts.
Hayley and Wade’s wedding day was a dream come true. And it was a wedding about family. Hayley and Wade believe that family is first, family is everything, family is LIFE.
Often a wedding is not simply about two people. It is about a wider group of people; community, family, heart families. This wedding was for everyone there.
A wedding could not alter what they already had, for Hayley and Wade had already built a marriage. I saw it expressed so well in their dear children, Charlotte and Kobi. As I spoke with the couple, the kids played with my lego basket. (Yes a relic of my own child rearing. I LOVE my son’s lego basket, and so do many of the kids who come to me with their parents.) As they played I noticed how gentle they were with each other and the things they created. Their parents took small moments to acknowledge what the kids were doing, and kids were very respectful of their parents having a talk. Impressive parenting at work here!
So this marriage was about a family unit, yet acknowledging of the important relationship that holds the family together, the parents. For Hayley and Wade wished to give the gift of marriage to each other. They had already promised forever in their kids, but on their wedding day they showed it to each other.
Charlotte and Kobi, (who are, may I say, the best behaved kids I have ever seen!) were delightful partners to the wedding as flower girl and ring boy. Kobi was quite emotional watching his parents wed. Who wouldn’t be? He could deeply appreciate the strong emotions that were being expressed that day. Check out Charlotte wrapping herself in Mum’s bride dress. I sneeked the ones of the “bridal wrap” while Toni, the photographer, was organising the group picture. Too delightful to miss!
A key to understanding this was their choice of reading:
The key to love is understanding…
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiveness…
to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.
The key to love is sharing…
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.
The key to love is giving…
without thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.
The key to love is respect…
realising that you are two separate people, with different ideas; that you don’t belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.
The key to love is inside us all…
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work… but the rewards are more than worth the effort…
and that is the key to love.
Thanks to Photographer Toni Snell for the glorious images.
~ with Sunshine Coast wedding celebrant, Kari ~
A row of 12’s looks great on the marriage paperwork.
So good in fact that I just had to create a special 12/12/12 certificate for them… just for fun.
Congratulations to Sandy and Michael for selecting the perfect dozen for their wedding day.
Sandy and Michael told me they don’t need trumpets to declare their feelings for one another. They enjoy the simple things of life. They came to a point in their lives when sincerity outweighs pomp, and intimacy is appreciated more than fanfare. Yet they also acknowledged that there are times in ones life when a ceremony or a bit of ritual can describe what is deep within. They chose an intimate elopement, and wanted to share this sacred moment with their supportive friends.
They have known each other for 6 years, and tell me that despite finding a couple of old warts and the occasional nervous twitch, life has been very good to them both and together. So they selected the most auspicious date for their nuptials, hired a house and together with their friends escaped to the hills of Montville to seal their relationship with a wedding.
At exactly the 12th hour, on the 12th day of the 12th month of the 12th year of the millenium, Sandy and Michael took their wedding vows.
Enjoy the fabulous photos by Marion Jonkers Photography
We do things in ceremony that are profoundly symbolic. It allows the depth of what we feel to shine through. Ceremony or ritual is the visible means for honouring that unseen world that we feel within. I love to create ritual special to each couple. I often ask couples to bring a food, which nurtures their daily life, and a drink to use for celebration. In sharing these things you symbolically foster both daily life and special moments together.
When we spoke together I noticed they both called each other ” darling honey”. So I suggested they use honey as a symbol of their perfect union.
Honey has many sustaining properties. In many ancient cultures honey is a basic food, and can also be a drink. It is often considered a delicious treat. Honey is a symbol of richness and sweetness in all traditions. In sacred texts, honey flows like a stream through promised lands. In others considered the drink of the Gods. In others again, it is equated with the higher self. And we’ve heard of the role New Zealand Manuka honey can play in healing.
We know honey to be natural and sustainable, a gift from nature, needing no further manufacture. Pure honey straight from bees is ready to eat. And we also know it to be long lasting. Honey found in the Pyramids today is still edible. What better symbol for a marriage. Sweet, nourishing, long lasting, and a food to enjoy.
I asked them to feed each other some honey, as a symbol of daily nourishment, yet also representative of the sweetness of life together.
What an extraordinary and yet intimate wedding day.
Here’s what Sandy & Michael said:
Getting married and finding the right Celebrant, words and ceremony is certainly not easy, even second time round. We found Kari’s approach easy and open and felt very comfortable discussing our thoughts for an intimate elopement ceremony. Kari not only listened to our thoughts but, found those little things that really mattered to us both and individually. Considering our thoughts, Kari provided some excellent suggestions which made it easy to find the right words and ceremony, along with the legal requirements we had to provide and complete prior to getting married.
We wanted something simple, formal, intimate with some involvement by our close friends, Kari achieved this and more, telling our story with some lovely touches, (Honey and passing the Rings) Kari can explain!
All our friends including ourselves felt privileged to be part of our wonderful day, a day and a moment in time we will always treasure.
We thoroughly recommend Kari and her professional Celebrant services.
Regards Michael & Sandy Clark