2. Sample vows

Vow 1

______, I love you. Today is a very special day. Long ago you were just a dream and a prayer. This day like a dream come true the prayer has been answered. For today, ______, you as my joy become my crown. I am thankful for the honour of going through time with you. Thank you for being what you are to me. With our future bright, I will care for you, honour and protect you. I lay down my life for you, _____, my friend and my love. Today I give to you me.

Vow 2

Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live.  I take you, with all your faults and strengths, as I offer myself to you
with all my faults and strengths.  I will help you when you need help, and
turn to you when I need help.  I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.

Vow 3

… my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honour you I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy. What may come I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold so I give you my life to keep.

Vow 4

In the presence of God and these our Friends, I take thee to be my wife/husband, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful wife/husband as long as we both shall live.”

Vow 5

… to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the (man/woman) you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.

Vow 6

________, with all my love, I take you to be my wife/husband. I will love you through good and the bad, through joy and the sorrow. I will try to be understanding, and to trust in you completely. Together we will face all of life’s experiences and share one another’s dreams and goals. I promise I will be your equal partner in a loving, honest relationship, for as long as we both shall live.

Vow 7

_________, from this day forward I promise you these things. I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will share in your dreams, and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement. I will remain faithful to our vows for better or for worse, in times of sickness and health. You are my best friend and I will love and respect you always.

Vow 8

  to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, while we both shall live.

Vow 9

__________ I pledge to share my life openly with you, to speak the truth to you in love. I promise to honour and tenderly care for you, to cherish and encourage your own fulfilment as an individual for the rest of my life.

Vow 10

_________I will be a loving husband. I promise to respect you as an individual. I intend to develop as a person in partnership with you. I want to love you through good fortune and adversity, while we both shall live.

Vow 11

______, I declare my love for you, I invite you to share my life as my husband/wife. I promise always to respect your needs, and to accept you as you are. I will be kind, unselfish and trusting. I will work for a happy life for both of us.

Vow 12

______, I want to be with you always just as you are. I choose you above all others, to share my life with me in marriage. I love you for yourself, and I want you to become all that you can be. I promise to honour this pledge as long as I live.

Vow 13

  as my spouse, and my lifelong partner. I will do everything I can to maintain our love. I will talk to you and listen to you. I will give to you and I will take from you. Your success and happiness will be mine.

Vow 14

______, I am proud to take you as my husband/wife for all the time we have been together.
There has always been the kind of love and understanding which is only shared when there is true love.
You have helped me triumph over challenges presented
Encouraged my personal growth and boosted my self esteem.
You have helped me become the person I am today
And with your help I will be a better person tomorrow than I was yesterday.
I love the way you love and care for me.
I love the way you trust and believe in me.
I love the way you always look your best for me.
I love you and I love my life with you.
Today as we begin our lives as husband and wife I commit myself to you.

Vow 15

I will take you in my arms when you need to be held. I will listen when you need to talk. I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sadness. I will love you for who you are, and help you to become all that you can be. I will age gracefully with you/grow old with you.

Vow 16

______, to say I love you is not enough
To try to condense the depth of my feelings into a few words is impossible.
It doesn´t tell of the respect
I have for you as an individual,
Nor how I appreciate
How tender and caring you are,
Nor the joy I find in your laughter,
Nor the tears I hold back for your pain,
Nor the strength you give when I need it,
Nor the pleasure I feel in your touch.
But if to say I love you means all these things
Then let me say I love you more each day.

Vow 17

______, you are my best friend and my one true love. When I´m with you, I feel I can be the person I want to be, and I cannot imagine my life without you. You make me smile, you stick up for me, you take care of me and you are always interested in what I have to say and do. Today, I want to make a promise to you and to myself, in front of our friends and family, to love and honour, protect and respect you for the rest of my life.

I vow to trust and value your opinions, and stand by your actions. I pledge to always treat you as my best friend, and equal. I will ask for help when I need it, and offer help when necessary. Let us be friends and lovers, and grow old together. And let us make all the years of our lives together be the best years of our lives. For now and forever.

Vow 18

What can I say to you that I haven’t already said,
What can I give you that I haven’t already given,
Is there anything of me that isn’t yours already,
My body, my mind, my heart, even my soul,
Everything that is me belonged to you long before this,
And it shall be yours long after this,
I will follow you anywhere and everywhere you lead,
Hand in hand and heart in heart.

Vow 19

_____________you are my best friend, my confidant and one of my favourite pests. You make me laugh and cry, you are honest and wise. You are my strength and you are kind-hearted. You always love me no matter what. You have always managed to help me through bad times and I cannot imagine my life without you. Today, I want to make a promise to you and to myself, in front of our friends and family, to love, honour and protect you for all the days of my life.

Vow 20

___________  I pledge to remain your companion and friend, I promise to be with you always, to care for you, and to love you no matter how far apart we may be. I will always show an interest in the things you do and your ideas. I will be with you in your heart, and keep you safely in mine. When you are happy, I will be happy with you. When you are sad, I will make you smile. I will encourage you to continue growing as an individual as we work toward our mutual goals. I stand with you as your friend and husband/wife and acknowledge that your choices are valid ones. I promise to give you love, honesty, trust and commitment, and, in general, keep your life interesting as we grow old together.

Vow 21

___________ I will be a loving husband/wife. I promise to respect and encourage your fulfilment as an individual.
In marrying you, I want to continue to build on the love and friendship which we have developed during our time together. I want to continue to cherish the joy of being with you.
I recognise that part of our strength comes from the little things that make us happy. I want to love you through good fortune and adversity, while we both shall live.

Vow 22

______, I treasure the bond we have together, and the strength of our friendship. A friendship I have never had before. I feel cared for by you, and long for your touch and your smile when we are apart. I love your sensitivity, I love your caring nature, I love your enthusiasm. I love your optimism, and your pessimism. I promise to support you in the good and the bad. I promise to appreciate you, and us, as we journey through the rest of our lives. I am proud to be your husband/wife.

Vow 23

______, I feel so proud to be your husband/wife. Having you beside me makes me glow. With all your tenderness, support and strength, knowing I can lean if I need to, makes my fears less. You have given me so much. I love your quietness. I love your stillness. I love your smile. I love the way you love me. Just the way I’ve always wanted to be loved. You encourage my personal growth. You listen and support me as no one else can. Today, the first day of the rest of our lives, I commit myself to you.

Vow 24

I promise to never give up my dreams for you, but instead to include you in them. 

I promise to never ask you to make me your life, but I will joyfully join you in the parts of your life I am invited to.

I promise to ask you questions rather than assuming I know who you are or what you need from me.

I promise to look to what I am grateful for every day, and to also be aware of what is not working so that we can change it.

I promise to support you and to cheer you on in whatever it is you need to do to create the world you desire to live in.

And I promise I will work to put into play everything I have learned about honor, trust, allowance, vulnerability and gratitude to create with you an intimacy and in turn a marriage we can feel both whole and free within.

Vow 25

______, I want to be with you always, just as you are. I choose you above all others to share my life with me in marriage.
I will take you in my arms when you need to be held. I will listen when you need to talk. I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sadness. I will love you for who you are, and help you to become all that you can be. I will grow old with you. (I will age gracefully with you.)

Vow 26

I promise to give you the best of myself, and to ask of you no more than you can give. I promise to respect you as your own person, and to realise that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own. I promise to share with you my time and attention, and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship. I promise to keep myself open to you. I promise to grow along with you – to be willing to face changes as we both change in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting. I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how completely and forever.

Vow 27

I, _________, promise to love, honour, and cherish you forever. I promise to always stand by your side through the good and the bad times. I promise to be faithful and loving. I promise to be the most compassionate wife through sickness, in health, and the sad times. I promise to give you all of my heart. I promise to be your partner and best friend. And, I promise to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity. Please accept this ring as a symbol of our love and friendship. I love you, [name].

Vow 28

From this day on, I choose you, my beloved ________, to be my (husband/wife). To live with you and laugh with you; to stand by your side, and sleep in your arms; to be joy to your heart, and food for your soul; to bring out the best in you always, and, for you, to be the most that I can. I promise to laugh with you in good times, to struggle with you in bad; to solace you when you are downhearted; to wipe your tears with my hands; to comfort you with my body; to mirror you with my soul; to share with you all my riches and honours; to play with you as much as I can until we grow old; and, still loving each other sweetly and gladly, our lives shall come to an end.


Vow 29

I _________, choose you __________ as my best friend, my love for life. I promise you my deepest love, my fullest devotion, my tenderest care, through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future, I promise to be faithful to you. I promise to love you, to commit to you, and support you. I pledge to respect your unique talents and abilities, to lend you strength for all of your dreams. You have shown me what love feels like and for that I thank you. You are everything I need and at this moment I know all of my prayers have been answered and that all of my dreams have come true. I praise God for you (name); for all of your love and constant friendship. I know that our love is heaven sent and I promise to be here for ever and always. From this day forward, you shall not walk alone. My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home. As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep.

Vow 30
_____________, you have filled my world with meaning. You have made me so happy and more fulfilled as a person. Thank you for taking me as I am; loving me, and welcoming me into your heart. I promise to always love you, respect you as an individual, and to be faithful to you forever. Today I choose you to be my partner, and commit myself to you for the rest of my life.

Vow 31

________, I promise to love you with all my heart, mind and strength. I promise to be faithful, now and forever. I also promise to respect your children and treat them as if they were my own. I gladly accept the obligations that go along with this pledge. I care for your children and want them to be a part of my life.

With continued love, friendship, trust and communication, I, ________, take joy today in committing my life to yours. ________, when you need me I will be there and when your strength fails you, may mine always be there for you. Side by side, step by step, may our great journey together begin, here now from this day forward.

Vow 32
______, you are my greatest love and my last love. Until I met you I didn’t give true love much thought, but since you came into my life, I struggle desperately to find the words to tell you how much I love you-how I adore you. It is difficult for me to verbalise my feelings for you, because mere words can’t begin to express my deep love. I thank God for you, ______, and I pledge myself to you now, to be your ever-faithful wife/husband. I give you my mind, my body and my heart and I promise to love you and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Vow 33
__________, as you have been by my side through my darkest hours, so will I be a light in your life. I will lift you up and support you through laughter and through tears. As you have cared for me in times of infirmity, so will I keep you sheltered when storms arise. I will comfort and console you. I will be the rock that you stand on, the staff that you lean on, and the wings that allow you to fly. As you have inspired me to follow my dreams, so will I strive to help you achieve your goals. I will encourage you in your endeavours and nourish your spirit as we walk through this life together. As you have loved me, so will I love you. I will be by your side, a part of one entity, but above all else, I will allow you to be you.

Vow 34
As we face the future together,
I promise to stand by your side.
I promise to unfailingly share and support your hopes, dreams and goals.
I vow to be there for you always.

When you fall, I will catch you.
When you cry, I will comfort you.
When you laugh, I will share your joy.
Everything I am and everything I have is yours,
from this moment forth and for eternity.

Vow 35

I will speak the truth to you in Love. I will encourage you and strengthen you in your walk with God. I will not let the sun go down on my anger, instead I will be gracious, tender-hearted, and forgiving even as God has forgiven me. I will be peaceful, content and joyful in every situation we encounter knowing that God is at work.

Vow 36
______, since we have been together, you have provided me with strength, security, confidence, honesty, love & plenty of much needed guidance.

Where there has been cold, you have brought warmth; where my life was dark, you have brought light. In my darkest trouble, in my coldest silence, I looked for you and you were there.

You are truly my knight in shining armour. You may not realise it but you have helped me and saved me in so many ways and I love you for that.

I am honoured that you will have me as your wife and I am proud to have you as my husband. I believe that we were meant to be from the start & I will always love you with all my heart.


Vow 37
______, you are a star from the heavens to love, honour and cherish, for all the days of my life.
You are my pearl of choice, my strength at my side.

My love for you will never fade.
You are my love, my life, my wife.
May God bless our marriage in peace and happiness for all time.

Vow 38
_________, I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.
I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard,
when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.

Vow 39

… knowing in my heart that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love. On this special [opt: and holy] day, I (affirm/reaffirm/give) to you in the presence of God and (all those in attendance/these witnesses) my (pledge/sacred promise) to stay by your side as your [opt: faithful] husband in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the bad.

I (promise/further promise) to love you without reservation, honour and respect you, provide for your needs as best I can, protect you from harm, comfort you in times of distress, grow with you in mind and spirit, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Vow 40

I vow to help you love life, to love you in all your forms, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed, and to share the silence when they are not, and, I promise I will never forget that this is a once in a life time love.