With this ring I thee wed

With this ring I thee wed

“With this ring I thee wed…..”

a wedding ring is considered to be a circle with no end, a symbol of the wedding vows.

Many a wedding is not complete without an exchange of wedding rings.

“With this ring I thee wed.”

Do we recall this phrase from old movies?  Many a wedding is not complete without an exchange of wedding rings.  A ring is not technically part of the legal aspect of a wedding ceremony. However, in my celebrant experience 98% of couples choose to enact this traditional ritual, and place a ring on each other’s fingers.  Although, I have had one Bridegroom who chose an earring in his left ear rather than a wedding band on his left hand!  And one couple made their rings from woven fibres.

BUT none that I know, have elected for a ring on the nose like the one chosen from the Piggy-wig by The Owl and the Pussycat.  You can look up that famous poem.

wedding ring with clusters of diamondsdiamond ring by John Bexon
 

a circle with no end…

A ring, as we know is a circle with no end, symbolic of a completeness, or a union with no end, a marriage to last forever; the unbroken circle of love between a husband and wife.   Worn as a reminder of wedding vows made by one to the other, the wedding band holds great importance to most wedded couples.

It can be said at a wedding, “A circle is the symbol of the sun and the earth and the universe. In these rings it is the symbol of unity, in which your lives are now joined in one unbroken circle.  Wherever you go, you will always return to one another and to your togetherness.”

The ring may or may not have enormous resale value but becomes absolutely precious to the wearer, an enduring and valuable symbol of promises made on their wedding day.  It takes but a moment to say I love you, it takes a second to place a ring on the finger, but marriage is the promise of forever, and that is why most couples choose a precious metal – gold or platinum, reflective of the preciousness of their rings in their married lives.

Unusual wedding ring with triangle shape and pearl feature

ring by Bold in Gold

I know of many women of my mother’s generation who have never taken their rings off. Their husband first placed them on their third finger of the left hand at the marriage altar.

Some modern women may take their ring off now and again whilst doing jobs that may scratch of damage their wedding ring.  But always it is a ring that one would wear constantly.  Other jewellery may come and go.  Some is  worn for special occasions. However, the wedding ring endures as a timeless treasure.

So given it is something to cherish for many many years, most couples will take their time to choose the perfect ring.  Some even have them custom made.

very unusual wedding ring featuring topaz stone in a gold basket

design by Loretta Bexon

finding the perfect wedding ring…

I’d like to introduce some ideas of where to go to find your perfect wedding ring.

a local jeweller…

Shop local, it is the thing to do. Embrace the idea of the personal touch.  Here on the Sunshine Coast we have several fine jewellers who make bespoke products to fulfil your design wishes.

Take in your inherited jewellery and have it remodelled for your own wedding.  You could have Great Grandmas rings remodelled in a modern style.  Something old, something new? Perhaps you’d prefer order a set of wedding rings to a custom design.  Bring your local craftsperson an idea or a picture and they can make it a reality for you.  Watch them work your piece for you and bask in the warmth of something made locally AND professionally.

close up of jewellers hands filing a wedding ring

His and hers matching pair of wedding rings, hers with a blue stone

Funky modern wedding ring with pearl feature

classic engagement ring with large diamond

Unusual wedding ring with clusters of blue stones

rings by Bexon Jewellers

finding the perfect wedding ring…

A meaningful alternative to mass production, is to have your wedding rings made for you by a local craftsman. These artisans are practising a craft centuries old.  They dedicate their lives to a particular craft, and the skills required to keep their craft up to date.  In an age where we are often disconnected to how our daily things are made, having your wedding ring designed for you especially is a memorable gift, a lasting reminder of your wedding day.  You can even visit your rings and watch their progress.

There are so many wedding venues in and around Montville on the Hinterland Range above the Sunshine Coast.  If this area is your dream wedding location, you may like to visit Bold In Gold in Montville, while you’re planning your wedding day.

Bold in Gold offer you the chance to have your wedding rings individually designed and handcrafted by a team of highly skilled designer-goldsmiths. Their designers ensure your finished  wedding rings represent your individuality in beautifully finished rings in the materials of your choice.

If  you have no firm  idea on your wedding rings, don’t be too concerned,  you can first view many different designs to get the feel for your likes and dislikes and then use the ideas this generates to design your very own unique wedding rings, even unusual, yet always exquisitely hand-crafted.  

The work of Bold in Gold is often different to classic styles, featuring unusual shapes and settings, or a mix of precious metals.  Get a matching pair made. 

Modern engagement ring with long rectangular green stone

matched pair of wedding rings, engagement with large stone, wedding band with row of small diamonds

His and hers wedding rings with two tone gold and diamond features

Unusual wedding band with two tone gold and captured diamond

modern wedding ring with captured pearl and inset diamonds

rings by Bold in Gold

Awwwwhhh it makes want to get married again, just to rediscover the joy of choosing my wedding ring.

Check out some local suppliers that I have worked with.

But wait there’s more. 

If you want to do something really unusual, you can take it a step further and even make your own Wedding Rings!  There are a few artisans who run make your own wedding ring workshops.  These come and go, so search in your locality for a specialist jeweller. Now that would be a truly romantic  experience, spending a day in a goldsmiths workshop making your rings together.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column]

Now what to say?

Here’s 8 things to say when exchanging wedding rings

a wedding at Parliament House

a wedding at Parliament House

A Wedding at Parliament House

A wedding of stately grandeur in Parliament House?  Not possible!

Well yes it is…but you need to know the right person.

Congratulations to Bec and Gary, who did indeed know the right person.  Actually their parents did!

Bec and Gary contacted me from England, where they were living.  Bec’s parents, here in Brisbane, were eagerly awaiting their daughter’s return for her wedding to her English beau Gary.  While they waited Mum searched for the perfect place for the wedding ceremony and reception; somewhere stately, somewhere resonant of England and Australia.  Who would have thought Parliament House would be available?  The building is old and very grand.  The rooms are stately and bedecked in resplendent furniture, lamps and trimmings with the lushness of a state’s rooms and a bygone era.

a kiss outside parliament house

Brisbane Parliament House

Brisbane Parliament House is a regal building. There are two parliamentary chambers.  One is not used for government any more.

The Legislative Chambers are a beautiful set of rooms, with no modern computers and such to impede the magnificence of the room.

It was here that Bec’s father walked his daughter, the bride,  down the aisle to a waiting groom, Gary.

Bride’s Song

I love the lyrics from the song Rebecca chose for her arrival into the Parliament House chambers.

Home – is where I want to be
But I guess I’m already there
I come home she lifted up her wings
Guess that this must be the place
I can’t tell one from the other
Did I find you, or you find me?
There was a time before we were born
If someone asks, this is where I’ll be . . . where I’ll be

Song Lyrics for a Parliament wedding

These words describe how Rebecca and Gary feel about each other…they feel like they have found home. They had travelled and worked away for some time.
Home is in each other, not where they reside.  Gary had realised he’d go anywhere to be with Bec, to make sure she didn’t get away!

*****

Wedding Reception at Parliament House

The reception was held in the impressive dining room with all the tableware of the house; heavy linen cloths, splendid silverware, gorgeous crockery and vases.   This is vintage with absolute class and quality.  Let your vintage heart go wild!  The silver was polished to perfection, the china gleaming and with gold rims and crests.  Simple and elegant, regal almost. The kind of absolutely matching dinner set any bride could dream of. every table alike yet with understated elegance.  Bec and Gary put their touches on it all with sprigs of herbs, and the names of their fav pubs.

Table names – English Pubs

This is what I truly loved – the names of the wedding tables. Bec and Gary named each table after a pub in London they had visited.  Each pub had a special memory for them; the first drink together, the first kiss, the first birthday….

Just the names of English Pubs are evocative of weddings; The Star and Garter for example or perhaps The Five Bells.  However Bec and Gary revisited their courtship through the names of their very own special drinking holes of London when they lived there together.

Thanks to Elisabeth Harvey for the magnificent images:

Check out her blog too.

A handfasting ceremony

A handfasting ceremony

Handfasting wedding ceremony

DIY vintage wedding with handfasting ritual to tie the knot

Vintage wedding down at the homestead

…and here comes the beautiful and totally happy bride, Jessica, to her wedding ceremony.  The story continues.

Jess and Joel are a relaxed couple who planned their DIY wedding at Kenilworth Homestead on the Mary River.  There was plenty of space down on the farm to feel like the rest of the world had melted away.    The homestead grounds could accommodate the entire guest list, with onsite cabins, cottages and a long river flat for tents if necessary.  But the centre piece for this wedding was the old rustic barn, with weathered boards, old farm features, transformed by this creative couple into a vintage paradise for an evening of fun, games and rock’n’rollin.

Vintage wedding decor with DIY table decor and loop s of fairy lights

Arriving at the wedding

But I digress, first the ceremony.

Under the huge tree they met to wed.

Jessica arrived on the arms of a proud Mum and Dad.  She needed them there so she wouldn’t bolt too fast to her darling Joel.  The guests watched with glee as she strolled across from the cottages to the altar under the tree

bride arrives with her parents on her arms

Another name for tie the knot

Jess and Joel had told me that they have a very tight knit group of friends, and that family is really important to them.  They describe family as a mixture of unconditional acceptance, lots and lots of love and happy chaos; a delightful combination!

So their wedding was planned as a retreat for everyone, not simply a honeymoon for two, although I’m sure they’ll find time for that too!

Since ancient times couples have stood together in a ceremony of marriage. For Jess and Joel’s ceremony they also decided to embrace an age old tradition, with a rope! I rewrote what is sometimes called a handfasting ceremony, in which a cord is tied about a couple’s  hands as they take their vows.  It is from this tradition that we know of the expression to “tie the knot”.  Making it  uniquely their own handfasting, we played with words, and wove their vow sentiments into the handfasting format.

Kari celebrant conducts a handfasting wedding

Handfasting

During the ceremony under the large tree, I wound the cord slowly about their hands as they made their promises to each other.   For each line a binding, for each binding a promise, and as the hands were bound together, a set of promises bound their lives and their futures.  But once done, the bindings can be unwound for the promises they have made will keep them together, no rope is needed!

Photos by Brisbane & Melbourne based photographer, Elleni Toumpas and a couple by myself!

If you enjoyed this story, you may like the first chapter of Jess and Joel’s DIY vintage themed wedding, down on the farm, by the Mary River.

silhouetted couple at Kenilworth Homestead DIY wedding
Vintage wedding at the homestead

Vintage wedding at the homestead

Vintage wedding at the homestead

Thank you Jessica and Joel for your inspiration, and congratulations on your marriage.  Where does one start with such a delightful vintage style wedding?

Kenilworth Homestead

Kenlilworth Homestead veranda with DIY bunting

Shall I begin with the choice of venue?

Kenilworth Homestead provides a classic farmyard or vintage wedding, with rolling paddocks of horses and animals, a classic barn, a huge tree for the ceremony, a relaxed river for guests camping ground, cabins to stay in, and plenty of vintage farm relics for photo opportunities galore.

Kenilworth Homestead

DIY vintage wedding decor details bunting and blackboard

DIY vintage wedding elements

Or does one begin with the vintage wedding DIY components; hours of shopping, sourcing, and making with aunties and mums and friends?
DIY vintage wedding with handfasting ritual to tie the knot
Handfasting wedding ritual

Or does one concentrate on a unique handfasting ritual which was part of their wedding ceremony?

It is simply not possible to cover everything in one story. So today I’ll lead you into the tale with a look at where we found ourselves the day after the storm the night before, on a glorious sunny day out in the country.

Setting the stage for a wedding retreat weekend, we begin at Kenilworth Homestead, by the Mary River, on the Sunshine Coast hinterland, a gorgeous farm setting for a wedding.

Jessica had spent hours with Mum and aunties and friends, sourcing country style fabrics and making bunting.  Bunting was strung up around the old barn and garden verandas.  Then there were blackboards with handwritten menus, directions for the guests, an enticing cocktail list, and lawn games.

Then a wander inside the rustic barn itself brought oohs and aahs.  Hours had been spent sourcing vintage crockery for the table settings, and old enamel teapots for the flower arrangements on the tables.  Each table was named for the colour of its teapot!  Outside were lawn games; croquet, badminton…and an old enamel bath! And of course the horses.  The yard was a playground full of delights, and the stage complete for the entry of a bride.

Photos by Kari with a couple from Elleni Toumpas

And the story continues with more photos in the next chapter

Retro wedding cars to love

Retro wedding cars to love

~ with Sunshine Coast wedding celebrant Kari ~

Many a bride wishes to arrive at her wedding in a glamorous car.  However when I was a bride, I arrived with my husband-to-be in a retro wooden canoe …… but that’s another story.

Cars have been the traditional wedding arrival vehicle for as long as the car has graced our lives.  And many modern weddings hark back to that early era of cars with classic vintage wedding cars and lovingly restored retro beauties for their wedding day.

I have had the privilege of working with some absolute classic wedding cars.  Today I’d like to share some Sunshine Coast classic cars with you, one totally vintage and two definitely retro.

First cab off the rank, actually is a cab!!!  It’s a genuine London cab, residing in Australia, at Maleny.  Classical with poise.

BLACK LONDON CAB

Steeped in history and full of stories this shiny black Taxi Cab was originally used by the London Metropolitan Police as an ‘undercover’ vehicle.  Then he was used as a cab in London.  If you’ve ever been to London, you’ll understand how iconic these cars are….  and how roomy they are in the back.  I nearly sat on the floor when I jumped into one the first time!  So there’s heaps of room for a large bride dress, train and bridesmaids.

But back to the tale of the car….the cab was next brought out to Australia by Lumley’s Insurance to be used as a chauffeur cab for their directors. They restored the cab, together with a new engine. It was next purchased at Shannon’s Auctions and driven to the hills of the Sunshine Coast hinterland.

“After many years of working in London, I now live in Maleny. My name is Dickens. Boris is my uniformed chauffeur. He provides a professional service to our clients. Let us roll out the red carpet for you!

If you have chosen a classic hinterland wedding location, this car will enhance your wedding photos with absolute class and vintage English style.  Your love story will add to Boris’ already colourful tale.  See Dickens in the background here:

Next is for the Elvis within you.  A topless car treat.

RED MUSTANG

As I promised in another story, here is the Red Mustang.  Absolutely immaculate, shiny as new, upholstered in creamy white leather, this car is a classic wedding car with attitude.  Matt, the young handsome chauffeur brings his pride and joy to put the rock’ n ‘roll into your wedding day.  The fellas will adore a ride in this car, and the girls can’t wait for their turn.  Shiny and red, with the top wound down, this classic car is a hoot.  Please can I have a turn?

 

And for the laid back and casual beach wedding for the surfing spirit within you.

A CLASSIC KOMBI

If you’re into red car or classic car how can one go past the newly restored 60’s Kombi from Kombi Deluxe.  Rescued from a car graveyard and restored over four years by a local family business with a passion for Volkswagons, this van has most of its original features and is maintained impeccably.  You can hear it coming with its classic VW sound, and watch the guests smile.  This classic and genuine Kombi car is beautifully finished in lotus white over salmon red.  Hm-Hmmmmmm.

As a Sunshine Coast wedding celebrant I’m in love with retro weddings or vintage wedding style.  My own car is a retro Pt Cruiser, so it is no wonder that I adore this Kombi.  Many of us dream of a surf themed wedding, so here is the car to match.  Hey I’ll even wed you on your surfboards if you wish, at your beach wedding!

On the other hand, up in the hills overlooking the coastal view, I have seen this car draw up at classic Hinterland wedding locations and cause the awaiting wedding party to go,”Awwwhhhhh” with delight.  What a way to get the guests in a happy mood before the ceremony starts.

I can’t wait for a ride.

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